Tere Khushboo Mein Base Khat......

After so many days I am listening this Gazal it's very close to my heart.....love these lyrics.

tere khushboo mein base khat main jalaata kaise

pyaar mein dube huye khat main jalaata kaise

tere haathon ke likhe khat main jalaata kaise

tune duniya ki nigaahon se jo bachkar likhe
saal ha saal mere naam baraabar likhe
kabhi din mein toh kabhi raat ko uthkar likhe
tere khushbu mein base

jinaka har labj mujhe yaad tha paani ki tarah
yaad themujhako jo paigaamein jubaani ki tarah
mujhako pyaare thejo anmol nishaani ke tarah
tere khushboo mein base khat main jalaata kaise
pyaar mein dube huye khat main jalaata kaise
tere haathon ke likhe khat main jalaata kaise

tere khat aaj main ganga mein baha loon - (2)

aag behate huye paani mein laga aaya hoon

They Love Me...

I do not know why I am writing this today. Today is no mother’s day or father’s day nor its their birthday. Nothing special happened today. Its just one of my usual working days.



Still suddenly I found myself thinking of those eyes. Eyes of my mom , when she saw me in my wedding attire. She held my cheeks and said that I look beautiful. But her eyes said much more. My mother , who never expresses her emotions in words. We have never heard her saying that she loves us or that she is worried about us. We have seen her like this forever and so we don’t really mind it. But that day , I saw a pair of eyes full of emotions , happiness and satisfaction.


Also that day I noticed someone who looked more beautiful than the bride. Yeah , my mom. She looked really pretty at my wedding. She got lots of compliments too. She attributed it to her makeup and hair do. Since she never goes to parlour , she said that the change made her look different and pretty. I don’t agree , she looked beautiful for she was happy, may be happier than the bride. And on my sis wedding as well…she was looking stunning. Although she doesn’t take more than 15-20 mins. And I went parlor….still she was looking best…again best than the bride. Same my sis felt.


Thinking about those eyes , I also remembered about a man , who told me that he is blessed that he has a daughter like me and like my sis. He always appreciate always says he feels proud of me.I just could not believe my ears. I have given him enough troubles. I would have disowned a daughter like myself perhaps , I thought. Still this man says he is blessed ??


What did God make parents off ? Will I be so giving/forgiving ever ? Can I be a good parent ?

Ajeeb lagti hai sham kabhi kabhi

Ajeeb lagti hai sham kabhi kabhi

Zindagi lagti hai bejaan kabhi kabhi
Samjh Aaye tou humen bhi batana

Ke kyun karti hain yaden pareshan kabhi kabhi.

Nazar badal ke dekho, nazaare badal jaayenge

Nazar badal ke dekho, nazaare badal jaayenge,

Soch badal ke dekho, sitare badal jaayenge,
Kashtiyan badalne ki kya zaroorat,

Dishayein badal ke dekho, Kinare badal jaayenge.

Impression

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

----Maya Angelou

Why wedding ring should put on the fourth finger ??...

Really interesting thing.

Why wedding ring should put on the fourth finger??
Pls follow the below step, really god make this a miracle (this is from a Chinese excerpt)
Firstly, show your palm, centre finger bend and put together back to back
Secondly, the rest 4 fingers tips to tips

Games begin, follow the below arrangement, 5 finger but only 1 pair can split.

Try to open your thumb, the thumb represent parents, it can be open because all human does go thru sick and dead. Which are our parents will leave us one day

Please close up your thumb, then open your second finger, the finger represent brothers and sisters, they do have their own family which is too they will leave us too

Now close up your second finger, open up your little finer, this represent your children. Sooner or later they too will leave us for they got they own living to live

Nevertheless, close up your little finer, try to open your fourth finger which we put our wedding ring; you will be surprise to find that it cannot be open at all. Because it represent husband and wife, this whole life you will be attach to each other.

Real love will stick together ever and forever

Thumb represents parents
Second finger represent brothers & sisters
Centre finger represent own self
Fourth finger represent your partner

Last finger represent your children

Facts About Dreams

• Within 5 minutes of waking half of your dream is forgotten. Within 10, 90% is gone.
• People who became blind after birth can see images in their dreams. People who are born blind do not see any images, but have dreams equally vivid involving their other senses of sound, smell, touch and emotion.
• Every human being dreams (except in cases of extreme psychological disorder). If you think you are not dreaming you just forget your dreams. 
  

  
  
• Our mind is not inventing faces in our dreams we see real faces of real people that we have seen during our life but may not know or remember. We have all seen hundreds of thousands of faces throughout our lives, so we have an endless supply of characters for our brain to utilize during our dreams.
• A full 12% of sighted people dream exclusively in black and white. The remaining number dream in full color. Studies from 1915 through to the 1950s maintained that the majority of dreams were in black and white, but these results began to change in the 1960s. Today only 4.4% of the dreams of under-25 year-olds are in black and white. Recent research has suggested that those changing results may be linked to the switch from black-and-white film and TV to color media.

• If you dream about some particular subject it is not often that the dream is about that. Dreams speak in a deeply symbolic language. Whatever symbol your dream picks on it is most unlikely to be a symbol for itself.
• The most common emotion experienced in dreams is anxiety. Negative emotions are more common than positive ones.
• On average you can dream anywhere from one or two hours every night.
• Studies have been done on many different animals, and they all show the same brain waves during dreaming sleep as humans. Watch a dog sleeping sometime. The paws move like they are running and they make yipping sounds as if they are chasing something in a dream.
• Rapid eye movement (REM) sleep is a normal stage of sleep characterized by rapid movements of the eyes. REM sleep in adult humans typically occupies 20-25% of total sleep, about 90-120 minutes of a nights sleep.

  
  
  

  During REM sleep the body is paralyzed by a mechanism in the brain in order to prevent the movements which occur in the dream from causing the physical body to move. However, it is possible for this mechanism to be triggered before, during, or after normal sleep while the brain awakens.
• Our mind interprets the external stimuli that our senses are bombarded with when we are asleep and make them a part of our dreams. This means that sometimes in our dreams we hear a sound from reality and incorporate it in a way. For example you may be dreaming that you are in a concert while your brother is playing a guitar during your sleep.
• Men tend to dream more about other men. Around 70% of the characters in a man's dream are other men. On the other hand, a woman's dream contains almost an equal number of men and women. Aside from that, men generally have more aggressive emotions in their dreams than the female lot.
• Results of several surveys across large population sets indicate that between 18% and 38% of people have experienced at least one precognitive dream and 70% have experienced Deja-vu.The percentage of persons that believe precognitive dreaming is possible is even higher – ranging from 63% to 98%.

  
  
  

  *Precognition, also called future sight, refers to perception that involves the acquisition of future information that cannot be deduced from presently available and normally acquired sense-based information.

  
  

  
  

Too Much Rain...

I see I'm not the only one this miserable weather is making lethargic. I just watched a fly walk across the room.......It's been 5 days weather is still cloudy and dark...too much rain............and so much moist at home..... Suraj uncle is sleeping from last 5 days......

Getting Rainy day SMSs everyday....

If I could pull down the rainbow

I would write UR name with it &
put it back in the sky
2 let everybody know

how colorful my life is with a friend like U!!

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Rain is not only drops of water.

It is the LOVE of sky 4 earth.
They never meet each other but send LOVE this way.
Enjoy the LOVE of nature.

HAPPY MOONSOON.

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aj badal kalay gehray hain,

aaj chand pay lakhon pehray hain,
Kuch tukray tumhari yaadon k,
bari dair say dil mein thehray hain,

Thought Court...

Few days back someone was trying t o explain me that its so difficult for any one of us to control our own behavior so how can we even think of controlling anyone else’s. I didn’t quite understand it then…

But just today I realized its so true.. it is so difficult for me to control my own behavior! And hence, its so unfair of me to try and control someone else’s behavior and expecting that person to behave in a particular way. I must learn to control my own brain wave… and I guess everything else will follow!

This Too Shall Pass

I got a very amazing email.....worth reading and worth sharing..

Money has no memory. Experience has. You will never know what the total cost of your education was, but for a lifetime you will recall and relive the memories of schools and colleges. Few years from now, you will forget the amount you paid to settle the hospitalisation bill, but will ever cherish having saved your mother’s life or the life you get to live with the just born. You won’t remember the cost of your honeymoon, but to the last breath remember the experiences of the bliss of togetherness. Money has no memory. Experience has.



Good times and bad times, times of prosperity and times of poverty, times when the future looked so secure and times when you didn’t know from where the tomorrow will come… life has been in one way or the other a roller-coaster ride for everyone. Beyond all that abundance and beyond all that deprivation, what remains is the memory of experiences. Sometimes the wallet was full… sometimes even the pocket was empty. There was enough and you still had reasons to frown. There wasn’t enough and you still had reasons to smile. Today, you can look back with tears of gratitude for all the times you had laughed together, and also look back with a smile at all the times you cried alone. All in all, life filled you with experiences to create a history of your own self, and you alone can remember them all.


The first time you balanced yourself on your cycle without support…


The first time she said ‘yes’ and it was two years since you proposed…


The first cry… the first steps… the first word… the first kiss… all of your child…


The first gift you bought for your parents and the first gift your daughter gave you…


The first award… the first public appreciation… the first stage performance…


And the list is endless… Experiences, with timeless memory…


No denying that anything that’s material cost money, but the fact remains the cost of the experience will be forgotten, but the experience never.


So, what if it’s economic recession? Let it be, but let there not be a recession to the quality of your life. You can still take your parents, if not on a pilgrimage, at least to the local temple. You can still play with your children, if not on an international holiday, at least in the local park. It doesn’t cost money to lie down or to take a loved one onto your lap. Nice time to train the employees, create leadership availability and be ready for the wonderful times when they arrive. Hey! Aspects like your health, knowledge development and spiritual growth are not economy dependent.


Time will pass… economy will revive… currency will soon be in current… and in all this, I don’t want you to look back and realise you did nothing but stayed in gloom. Recession can make you lose out on money. Let it not make you lose out on experiences… If you are not happy with what you have, no matter how much more you have, you will still not be happy.


Make a statement with the way you live your life: How I feel has nothing to do with how much I have.

Harsh But True

There is a time when you think that you are having the best moments of your life and life can't get any better then this and then there is a time when you wish you never lived those moments!! You wish you can erase those moments and memories from your life.

Umeed Se Saje Zindagi

A promotional poem by Zee TV...


Ummed ke bandh lifaafe mein,
             Ek timtimaata sapna hai.
Baadal ki pichkaari lekar,
             Chhand sitaare rangna hai.
Aasmaan ki iss kitaab par,
             Naam bas apna likhna hai. 

Marriage & Freedom...

One my close friend is getting married soon and his FB status saying "just few days of my bachelorhood and freedom". And I was started thinking...Is Marriage Really the End of Freedom?

But what is freedom?

Is it the freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want?


Is it the freedom of having the ability to be romantically involved with whomever you want whenever you want?

Is it the freedom of having no responsibilities and only worrying about yourself?

Yes it's true any relationship comes with responsibilities...One has to accept that marriage certainly comes with boundaries and terms and conditions...But that's fine it's a part of life.I mean we can't be overdosed of freedom. Some one very truly said "When you got nothing, you got nothing to lose.” and ”Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose.”

What I feel you will loose your freedom in your relationship (especially in marriage) when you loose your individuality.Marriage, to me, certainly does not mean losing one’s individuality. You still are the person you were, before you got married. If I had to completely change myself, just to keep my spouse happy, then I doubt if my marriage will go long way.

Many people I know, accommodate their spouses demands (whether reasonable or not) for the sake of peace in the house.When I look around me, most people who have been married more than 3-4 years or so, feel stuck . But they ‘adjust’ and ‘compromise’ and carry on. (Not just the women, the guys too). Sometimes the issues in a marriage are not ‘big enough’ for a divorce. And at times it's just impossible that those issues can resolve by talking.....Mostly couples ‘adjust’ because there are kids involved, societal pressure involved, ageing parents involved. Some might argue that marriage itself means ‘adjustment’ and 'compromise.'

Many couples share their email accounts and their passwords too. The spouse is ‘not allowed’ to have friends of the opposite sex. If a friend is of the opposite sex, then they cannot call you, text you, mail you, unless the spouse also reads it. ......Too much at times.........few days back I was online very late and chatting with one my old classmate and he asked me "you are talking to me too late " your hubby will get annoyed". for him its was really a big deal............I told him don't worry....

Then I realized I am fortunate enough....I have my own set of friends (both male and female) and he has his own....yes we do share our passwords but we really never bothered to check each other's email or text untill unless necessary...And I think this is healthy and essential too.

It all depends how you make it work for you.And personally, I feel, that just like marriage, it applies to everything in life. And personally, I feel, that just like marriage, it applies to everything in life. At times we still find issues (like me)  - then work on your relationship. Just like you would work on other things. I had to work on making my hubby understand many many things - and our marriage is working coz both him and I are reforming ourselves as we go along, without having to compromise or sacrifice much. We still maintain our identities and are able to be happy with each other. Personal email and bank account are a must. Friends of opposite sex are a must. Complete trust in your partner is a must. For me, my personal space is a must, as much as I love my husband. I need my friends, my time with them and it is indeed important to me.


If things working for you and you are happy and enjoying your life it's fine.

If not then might be it's time to think about it?

Thought Of The Day

There's just 2 ways of living your life

1 . As if nothing is a miracle !!
2. As if everything is a miracle !!

Shopping Therapy...

Ain’t it? After all summer and now a beautiful weather fully rainy season obviously a girl needs to shop with the change in weather! Yeah, so what it the weather hardly changes in Mumbai and so what if most of the time it is hot and humid as ever.

The wardrobe needs a bit of revamping every now and then. :) And Home decoration, kitchen utility also…list is endless at times.

For me shopping does work as a stress buster at most of the time, and it doesn’t matter for whom I am buying stuff. Just the act of buying makes me feel better. But hold on I am not a Shopaholic….. even If I will buy a pair of earrings I will feel happy. I enjoy in buying small at times silly stuff .Yeah I am crazy like that. What about you? Do you love to shop?

It's Holiday Time

Pattya-Bangkok was amazing!! 4 days of undefined luxury, relaxation and bliss.

And all that we did was, lie in the pool or beside it and sip on some pretty looking drinks. And then hit the beach, water sports and do pretty much the same. Throw in some wonderful Thai massages on daily basis and some exotic food.


What more can a girl ask for? Nothing, absolutely nothing.


Our stay was at All Seasons Pattaya. The location of this hotel is a major positive aspect, i.e. walk able to the beach and market places. Complementary buffet breakfast at the hotel is just awesome.Pattaya is just 2 hours drive from Bangkok.


Pattaya is a heaven for non-vegetarians; you get all kinds of sea food, chicken and pork at the road side eateries. A good thing is that you also get Indian food at many places.


Don't forget to eat Thai Mango Rice.....its just awesome.


It’s a sticky rice bit sweet and they put coconut milk on it and then served with Mango....I just loved it.In Pattya its available everywhere...initially I was bit hesitated to have it then we bought it last day only and I found I was a fooled not to trying it....and then I couldn’t get it in Bangkok that kind of quality....but finally I got it at Bangkok Airport and I paid 150 BAHT for it...and in Pattya it was only for 50BAHT.well....I can't resist to have it :-)


Now coming to the night life the famous walking street is good, don’t worry you wont be hassled by anyone if you want to enjoy you need to approach them. There are a lot of pubs and disc to enjoy too And Gay club, lesbian club. And so many adult shows....they will give you even a menu card. You can't say anything other than OH MY GOD!


If you are going with your family then better avoid the beach road after the evening as prostitution is an open affair there.


You have to go with an open mind there only then you can enjoy.


Here We say we are very cultured not very open to all this but I found Indians were everywhere, watching all these show and also they are the ones that volunteer for the shows, if we say its against Indian culture we are only acting like a hypocrite.


But yes we enjoyed a lot...Thx to My sis and her dear Hubby...they also joined there so it was a super hit holiday,so many photographs,a beautiful tan and thodi bahut shopping....


And the wait begins for the next one. And I have a feeling it will be Hong Kong this time. In a year or so....lets see...

Raaston mein kho gaya hai mitra............

Very touching lyrics...

Raaston mein kho gaya hai mitra

Ajnabi kyon ho gaya hai mitra (mitra)
Kuch toh kami hai saavan
Saavan sa kyon na laagey mitra, mitra


Shaamo sehar kyun mann ka
Aangan yeh soona laagey mitra, mitra
Dhoop leke jo gaya hai mitra
Ajnabi kyon ho gaya hai mitra

Yaara kaaye yaara
Kaise jaane yaara bichhda
Yaara kaaye yaara
Sang chain saara bichhda
Dil ke taaron mein, kyon hazaaron mein
Dard jaage hain
Humne baandhe jo, reshmi saare
Tootey dhaage hain
Phir haathon yeh harjaana hai
Humko adaa kar jaana hai
Sirf yaadon ka taana baana hai
Kya chhupaana hai
Haale dil jo ho gaya hai mitra (mitra)
Ajnabi kyon ho gaya hai mitra (mitra)


Kuch toh kami hai saavan
Saavan sa kyon na laagey mitra, mitra
Shaamo sehar kyun mann ka
Aangan yeh soona laagey mitra, mitra
Dhoop leke jo gaya hai mitra (mitra)
Ajnabi kyon ho gaya hai mitra




Yaara kaaye yaara
Kaise jaane yaara bichhda
Yaara kaaye yaara
Sang chain saara bichhda

Tittle-Tattle

 A small wave in the ocean laments "Poor me. Other waves are so great in size, yet I am so small. Other waves can travel so fast, yet I am so inferior." Another wave replies "This is because you do not know your true being, so you think you are suffering. A wave is your temporary phenomenon. In actual fact, you are water. When you realize that your true being is water, you will no longer be troubled by your physical form, and therefore will no longer suffer."

Meaning Of Being Single

I got a very good Tag today only I need to say YES/NO about these definitions.
If your mostly answers are YES...then it means you love your single hood or you still missing your Single hood days.. .....And if answers are no then it means you totally fed up to be single now its time to Mingle ;-)
SINGLE



Q1. Single means you have the time to grow and be the person you want to be.
        Contradictory question :-) can I say YES & NO Both ;-P


2. Single gives you space to grow.It is harder to grow when you are too close to someone.
     Same answer as above....OMG .....;-)


3. Single means learning to live by yourself.
    Yes...100%


4. Single means freedom.
    Yes ...100%


5. Single means learning not to need a man/woman to make your life meaningful.
    Yes


6. Single is realizing that being married is not necessarily better.
    Yes


7. Single means that there could be something wonderful around the corner and you can     take advantage of it.
   Yes


8. Single means you are free to love again.
     Ha ha YES


9. Single means you have more time to care for other people.
    Yes...
Result....let it be its obvious...;-));-))

So Called Friendship & Relationship ....

Friends are always nice to have around.No man is an island and no one can live alone on their own no matter how isolated they have placed themselves to be.
I have friends, but not many.In fact I would say my closet bunch just few. You do not need alot of friends just to keep you company, just a few would do.Few friends to whom you just hang around and have dinner here and there.


Yet,how does it feel when you have realised you have been taken for granted? Or you realised there is so much emptiness in these so called friendship. Guess that wont come from those who are closest to me, but how about those who are....not that close and yet still hang around you when they need you?


I been thinking a lot about this from last few days. I realised that though I have done certain good to others, they give me a feeling that what I did is something what I should do and anything expected of them is a ZERO.

Spending so much time and effort, many would say one should not expect any reward. Yet I will say I am normal human being, you cant help but wonder how come the treatment you get is so different and even insignificant when compare to what others have received when others don't seem to have done much more.


The counter argument here would have been: quality over quantity.


Might be I am too sensitive,or may be I am too emotional. Or May be I am not strong enough.May be I get attached with people very easily.


I m learning to let go of these negative feelings. I m learning not to expect anything from the things I have done for others. But it does gets very tired when you seem to have done so much, yet you do not get to taste the fruit of your labour. And most important nobody even remember those good things which you have done so far.
Its time to move on. I guess its pointless to try to stay around some when they just seem to keep you at arm's length when you have been around for so long.


I am getting very tired.