Sangharsh Jari Hai

I want to publish this post 2 yrs back in 2008 but don't know I couldn't do it earlier.............I think its really tough to accpet your failures am not exception. I think sometimes, struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If we were to go through our life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. Give every opportunity a chance, leave no room for regrets. I am happy cause I can celebrate my struggle.
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Words like recession, economic slowdown, and jobcuts were just a jargon for me, till I had to face the heat one day and joined the thousands who were fired by their companies.

I remember, it was a Wednesday 24th DEC and everything seemed to be going well. I was called by my manager in the evening and was handed over the pink slip. The ground slipped from beneath my feet as my hands trembled and my mind asked "Where did I go wrong? What was my fault?"

With a heavy heart, I walked towards to my desk last time. I was just thinking how would I give this news at my family, to my sister who is staying with me? My family, friends; would they understand or my parents will force me to marry that guy whom they choosed for me who is settled some where in Haryana, where no career opportunities for me.


I get down in my bus, I watched everyone else with tears in my eyes. Everybody looked so happy………….even the sweeper appeared to be laughing at me, saying "You are jobless, but I have a job. I'm still on my feet…………but what about you?"


The clouds of insecurity wrapped me like a blanket. I wished I could go back and scream at people in the office. I felt cheated.

Why me, I wondered.

I imagined myself sitting with the newspaper, searching for jobs, going to various companies, giving interviews, negotiating salaries…….a wind of rejection made my steps heavier. Same as I was doing 3 years before. I took four months to get a good job. For me struggle is I think endless. Now I accept this thing "Jeevan he to Sangharsh he "


While thinking all this my stop came I get down from bus it was a day before Christmas and winters are on peak. I tried to stop my endless trail of tears; my body shivered and made me stops under a tree.


Looking up at the sky, I said my daily prayer to seek blessings from Him. I saw stars are shining weather was little foggy, few birds flying back to their nests. Nature appeared to be talking to me at that moment.The Sun will rise again; the stars will shine again tomorrow; the birds will fly the next day to search for food for their fledglings; flowers would blossom and spread their fragrance. Tomorrow wil come……….and it'll come for me as well. A smile lit my face and dried my tears.

I thought again.New year was approaching. I now had time to spend with myself. I can enjoy with being me can work on my hobbies. I always want to do painting but because of office life couldn't get time, now its time to do. I love cooking though in hostel life it's a bit difficult but yes if I am free then I can do this too.And I love French I can join some online course. And side by side, I could begin my search for a new job, and reach out to better avenues.
I know what I am. And I am confident enough to face any challenge.

There are thousands going through the same mental block……..we can not give up so easily. Recession taught me a lesson; hopes should never die.


I felt as excited as a five year old blessed by Santa. The words of a famous quote echoed in my ears," What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise."
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Sher -O-Shari....

ज़िन्दगी की राह में आगे चलते जाना हर पल,

मुड़ के ना देख बीते हुए पल

जो नहीं था तेरा तुझे नहीं मिला

जो मिल गया उसके साथ गुज़ार अपना हर पल

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हम फिर बेवफा से रिश्ता बना  बैठे ,

फिर उनकी सादगी से धोका खा बैठे ,

पत्थर से है तालुकात अपना,

फिर भी शीशे का घर बना बैठे !!

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By Nida Fazli............

अपना ग़म लेके कहीं और न जाया जाये
घर में बिखरी हुई चीज़ों को सजाया जाये

जिन चिराग़ों को हवाओं का कोई ख़ौफ़ नहीं
उन चिराग़ों को हवाओं से बचाया जाये

बाग में जाने के आदाब हुआ करते हैं
किसी तितली को न फूलों से उड़ाया जाये

ख़ुदकुशी करने की हिम्मत नहीं होती सब में
और कुछ दिन यूँ ही औरों को सताया जाये

घर से मस्जिद है बहुत दूर चलो यूँ कर लें
किसी रोते हुए बच्चे को हँसाया जाये

Relationship & Interest

It was a long holiday after so many days and we were in Mumbai on this Diwali vacations no friends around.Ritesh and me have been busy in our work and  on every weekends with some friends or some party so have not able to spend as much time together as we would have liked to so this was the perfect opportunity to spend some quality time.

And we really enjoyed it,we did shopping ,movie,cooking,diwali decoration,crackers and so much....I was just thinking .....beacuse I heard it somewhere that couples should cultivate common interests to enhance their relationship. I am really not sure about the cultivating part.

As we never had too. We both love travelling and we both are spontaneous with our travels. We love eating out and experimenting with various cuisines. And we both get down to cooking together. We love the water and swimming is another thing we do together. We love shopping. So we head out together and then go to respective sections only to meet again at the trail rooms. Life looks all set.


We haven’t made efforts to imbibe each others interests, but we have found a way around it. Like in his free time he watches TV and I stick to my laptop or some books magazines. So we sit together but do different things. He can't talk much.......and I am a chatter box.

I am sure there are people out there who make a lot of effort to pick up a hobby just for the sake of their partner. We didn’t, coz we didn’t have to. We had our common interests and we had our not so common interests. And we like it that way.
I really don't understand how can people change their basic nature just for the sake of thier partner.

It might be important for couples to enjoy stuff together. But it’s equally important to have some varied interests as well. Now if 2 people were just the same won’t be life too boring? Nothing new will happen.....moreover there is nothing to share.........Atleast I feel so.

Has technology made us lame??

I am saying beacuse  I don’t remember more than 4-5 phone nos. And if someday the phone lost or conks off (which is actually happend with me my ph conked off suddenly and I have lost so many nos as they were in my ph memory then I realized this how much we are dependent on these technology), I really wouldn’t know what to do? Not that I haven’t lost phone before, but it has been a struggle to get all the contacts again. Back in the days of only landline phone, I could rattle nos like no ones business. Not just of the obvious ones but of vague ones as well like all my classmates nos their home-hostel all nos.........all relative's telephone nos.

And now, barring like 3-4 numbers I don’t remember any other!!
Second example is of spellings. Now if not for the spell check feature on Ms Word, half my documents would be utter trash. I have become so complacent while typing that I just don’t bother if a “i” or a “e” is out of place, knowing for sure that my word editor will correct it.
There are numerous other things as well, like I don’t even remember when was the last time sent someone a birthday greeting? or I call someone on his/her birthday.We wish people on FB/Orkut and the job is done.

I hardly can remember when I wrote last letter. Though in my school/college days I have written so many letters to my friends and they also did. All those letters are still with me.......I am feeling I was more attached to them in those letters.So ridiculous sometime.................beacuse even I love to do the things in old ways I don't know my pan friends/or my near dear who stay far will also love to do this.
I know they will say we talk almost daily then what to write.

But still I feel (atleast for me) so many feelings you can not say but you can always write.
Lets see I want letters from my friends from my family members............lets see.I will wait!!!!!

There are so many other things whcich technology has changd I can't recall now might be you if you are reading this post you can tell.................but yes Life has changed!!!!!!!!!!!!